Limbo
So over this past week, I have talked to DCS every day. Apparently the idea of actually selling the wedding dresses was eye opening. He says he wants to work us out, I want to work us out, but no working is actually being done.
How does one retrace the footsteps back to togetherness? What are we to each other anymore? Are we still broken up? Are we still engaged? Are we back to boyfriend/girlfriend? Are we nothing? We are in this weird, awkward, sometimes angry, often lonely purgatory waiting room, trying to figure things out.
In my world, if you want something, you make it happen. So I don't understand when he says he wants to be together, but isn't making it happen. This is such a weird concept.
I know I love him and hope that we can re-rail this derailed train and get us moving back to together again.
copyright Kc @ 8:30 AM
1 Comments:
Yes, no and maybe. You got it right the first time. He's got to DO something. Think MORE, and then communicate WHAT Changed for him. If he's not doing this, then all this is is wishful thinking, which is nice, but it just further postpones the inevitable.
If he was on the verge of selling the dress, he was serious. Only his cowardice kept him at bay.
Everyone deserves a 2nd chance, but they've got to reach for it, work for it. He needs to do what it takes to make it right, and if it does not feel right, that only makes it harder.
There needs to be a dialog. He needs to tell you in no uncertain terms what went 'wrong' for him, and how he thinks it can be made right or at least better.
Perhaps what you need is a long break from each other, just to sort it all out. But if he wants to bounce right back in, I'd ask for a decent explanation. There needs to be a narrative progression here. This can be done. It used to be done by adults all the time. Sometimes it helped too.
Cheers & Good Luck, 'VJ'
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